Zoo Lake, Johannesburg 

This Joburg institution has it all: shady lawns for spreading out a blanket, a lake for a lazy family row-boat ride and ducks to feed. Free entry and easy parking make it a stress-free choice for a family outing. 

More family-friendly picnic spots in Johannesburg: 

• The Wilds Nature Reserve 
• Johannesburg Botanical Gardens 
• Delta Park

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Durban Botanical Gardens, Durban  

Africa’s oldest surviving botanical garden is a timeless favourite, with shady trees, wide lawns and colourful orchid displays to explore before you settle in. There’s a lake for a scenic backdrop, an on-site café if you don’t feel like packing everything yourself, and it’s free to enter, making it an easy, no-fuss choice for a family day out.  

More family-friendly picnic spots in Durban: 

• Yellowwood Park 
• Mitchell Park 
• Japanese Gardens, Durban North 

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Green Point Park, Cape Town 

Right in the city, with manicured gardens, a biodiversity showcase, an outdoor gym and a kids’ play area, it’s an easy, accessible spot for a family picnic with skyline and stadium views as a backdrop. 

More family-friendly picnic spots in Cape Town: 

• Oudekraal Nature Reserve 
• Silvermine Nature Reserve 
• Llandudno Beach

@africaunexpected A peaceful wetland… right in the middle of Cape Town 🌿 Bird sounds, walking paths, picnic spots, and mountain views — it honestly doesn’t feel like you’re in the city at all. One of the best free things to do in Cape Town? Grab some snacks and have a picnic at Green Point Park. #GreenPointPark #CapeTown #FreeThingsToDo #PicnicSpot #NatureLovers ♬ INTERESTELLAR – Kore Blanco

St George’s Park, Gqeberha

The city’s oldest and most iconic green space, with sprawling lawns, shaded trees and plenty of room to spread out, plus nearby cultural landmarks to explore after lunch. Fun fact: the park includes the iconic Port Elizabeth Cricket Club, the founder cricket club in South Africa.  

More family-friendly picnic spots in Gqeberha: 

• Victoria Park 
• Hobie Beach 
• King’s Beach

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Jan Cilliers Park, Pretoria 

Known as the ‘Fairy Park’, this Groenkloof gem is free, pet-friendly and one of the most loved picnic spots in the city, with miniature waterfalls, ponds and sprawling lawns perfect for an idyllic family afternoon. 

More family-friendly picnic spots in Pretoria: 

• Pretoria National Botanical Garden 
• Magnolia Dell Park 
• Rietvlei Nature Reserve 

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Before you head out the door, make sure you’ve got your picnic essentials sorted. A traditional wicker basket keeps everything organised and adds a classic touch to your spread, while a sturdy blanket gives the whole family a comfortable spot to settle in for the afternoon. Don’t forget a wide-brimmed sun hat to keep shaded and comfortable while you soak up the day. With the basics covered, all that’s left to do is choose your spot and enjoy. 

Also read: Picnic-perfect foods to pack this spring 

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Remember a time when you were growing up when your neighbours all looked out for you? Scolded you if you stepped out of line? An aunty two houses away made you a sandwich, or a grandpa fixed your bicycle? Yip, those were the days. At every turn, someone cared and ensured children were supported. 

Today, things are very different. 

Unlike previous generations, parents are increasingly raising children in isolation. Between demanding schedules, rising stress levels at work, ‘stranger danger’ and the pressure to have it all together, modern parenting can feel deeply lonely. Yet, regardless of how much society and times have changed, one truth remains: children still need the village. 

@homelearninghaven Quick to judge, but slow to offer support. Becoming a parent has made me realise now, more than ever, just how challenging the reality is. I’ve always felt that I’d rather give my support than my advice to my friends/family who have kids, but now I’m a mum, I feel that x100. I’d never give my daughter less than 100%, but I will say 100% becomes a lot more difficult when you’re tired, overwhelmed, there are other tasks to do…never mind being expected to do it all on your own 🤯 #childdevelopment #parentingtips #IntentionalParenting #consciousparenting #mumlife ♬ original sound – Home Learning Haven

According to Dr Anisa Vahed, the saying is more relevant now than ever. “While the world has advanced technologically, human biology has not,” she says. “Human infants are born incredibly dependent, and historically we evolved to raise them in co-operative, communal structures. Children thrive when they feel safe, supported and connected to a network of caring adults.” 

She believes modern families are trying to carry too much and do too much on their own. “Parenting was never meant to happen in isolation,” says Dr Vahed. “The ‘village’ isn’t just a nice-to-have luxury; it’s a fundamental safety net that preserves the mental health of parents and optimises the development of the child.” 

Parenting in isolation 

The saying “It takes a village to raise a child” feels harder to live by these days. Some parents are raising children far from grandparents and relatives, neighbours keep to themselves, communities feel less connected, and busy schedules leave little time to reach out and lean on others. And while technology is meant to keep us in constant contact, many parents are feeling increasingly alone in real life. 

“The modern village is not always made up of extended family living nearby,” says Dr Vahed.  “Today it can include grandparents on video calls, supportive friends, teachers, healthcare professionals, childcare providers, neighbours, school communities and even online parenting support groups.”  

She refers to this as a “mosaic village”, which means one that is intentionally pieced together through different forms of support. 

“It includes the found village, like neighbours and fellow parents; the chosen village, made up of close friends who become family: the professional village of paediatricians, teachers and therapists; and even virtual communities where parents share practical support and resources,” she explains.

Why children need more than just parents 

Children thrive when there are adults outside of their immediate family that they can trust, talk to and lean on. 

Whether it’s a teacher, coach, neighbour, aunt or family friend, those relationships help children feel emotionally secure and connected to the wider world.

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“Trusted adults outside the immediate family provide children with additional emotional security, perspective and support,” explains Dr Vahed. “These relationships show children that they are supported by a broader community.”  

When they see healthy relationships, kindness as well as support modelled around them, they also learn empathy, communication and emotional security. 

Importantly, she adds, supporting parents directly benefits children too.  

“A well-supported parent is often a calmer, more regulated and emotionally available parent.” 

Asking for support is not a weakness 

With so much emphasis nowadays being placed on being self-sufficient and independent, many parents feel the pressure to quietly manage everything on their own. But Dr Vahed believes that this type of mindset needs to change. 

“We need to move away from the idea that asking for help is a weakness,” she says. “Strong families are often built through strong communities.” 

She hopes people remember one simple truth about raising children today: “We were never meant to do this alone, and you are not failing because it feels hard.” 

Perhaps that is the real heart of the village. Not perfection. Not having all the answers. But simply showing up for one another with consistency, warmth and care. Because while times may have changed, one thing has not: it does still take a village to raise a child. 

@corporate_mom_agendaIt’s ok to ask for, want, or need help as a parent♬ original sound – Jen | Motherhood & Corporate

Words: Shanaaz Petersen
Photos: Pexels 

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Treat your family to a hot chocolate tasting 

Warm things up with a family hot chocolate tasting – strictly in the name of ‘research’, of course! Be sure to book ahead as these tastings are popular in winter. 

Visit the Wild Café in Pretoria, Nouvelle Bistro in Durban, and Revved Up Café in Cape Town. 

@blondiandginger This is your sign to try hot chocolate tasting in Pretoria 🍫🤎 This is the perfect winter activity with friends, family or your loved ones 🤎 Cosy, delicious and a fun new unique experience to try Only R120 per person 📍The Wild Cafe Pretoria Glen Village @The Wild Café Not big on hot chocolate? No stress, they also have delicious food and other tastings available 👀 #hotchocolate #chocolate #foodie #winter #pretoria ♬ Little Things – Adrián Berenguer

Plan a library visit 

Libraries are underrated winter gold. Let kids pick books, join a story corner or just explore shelves like tiny literary detectives. It’s quiet, free and will, of course, help to improve your child’s literacy skills. (Grown-ups get to peruse the latest whodunits and romance novels, too). 

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Go pottery painting 

Pottery painting is perfect for expressing your creativity on winter weekend afternoons: most venues have indoor heaters or fireplaces, playgrounds for little ones, as well as breakfast and lunch menus. This activity helps kids focus, sparks creativity and gives families a chance to slow down together without screens. 

Visit the Clay Café in Cape Town, Lanseria, Pretoria and Johannesburg; Ceramic Café in Somerset West; Create Lonehill in Midrand; or The Creative Studio at Fig Tree Farm in Durban. 

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Indulge in some (educational) nostalgia 

Gold Reef City in Johannesburg and Soetmelksvlei at Babylonstoren in Franschhoek both feel like stepping into a time capsule. The former mixes old mining history with theme-park energy (with rides galore), while the latter slows everything right down with a beautifully preserved working farm experience straight out of the voortrekker era. 

Both are ideal for families because they turn learning into something you can actually walk through. Kids get to explore, touch and ask questions, while parents get the rare win of an outing that is both entertaining and educational. 

@elmaridevos Auntie outings part 2… took my nephew to #Soetmelksvlei and the grown-ups ended up having just as much fun! This family experience by @Babylonstoren lets you travel back in time to a working farm in the late 1800s. From visiting the kraal and a milling demonstration to watching a cream separation demonstrations and blacksmiths at work, this is a fun yet educational experience for grown-ups as well as kids. Plus your ticket includes entry at Babylonstoren, giving you a great excuse to visit the gardens, restaurants, and stores. Again. Because we can never have enough of Babylonstoren! #westerncape #capewinelands #familytime ♬ original sound – RWEeditz

Have a pajama party 

This is an enormously fun idea for a chilly Saturday or Sunday evening. Parents and kids put on their comfiest PJs or onesies (extra points if they match), make a snuggle pit in the lounge with plenty of blankets and cushions – and maybe a few hot water bottles for good measure – and lay out a selection of snacks and hot drinks. From here, you can decide if you want to have a movie night, a karaoke night, or a board game evening. Enjoy! 

Photography: Freepik 

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We’ve all seen it – your two-year-old sees a photograph and instinctively tries to ‘swipe’ it. It’s adorable, but it also shows just how naturally toddlers are drawn to screens. 

“This makes it important for parents to be mindful of screen exposure and its potential impact on early development,” says Jolandi Becker, spokesperson for BabyWombWorld. She shares what to keep in mind when it comes to screen time for toddlers. 

The Dopamine Response  

It’s easy to rely on screens to keep toddlers occupied – after all, nothing grabs their attention quite like a tablet or TV. Every swipe and tap triggers instant responses: colours, sounds and movement. This rapid stimulation prompts the brain to release dopamine, a chemical that plays a key role in our reward system and feelings of pleasure. 

This is why that dopamine rush can be addictive. When the screen is removed, toddlers may initially struggle to re-engage with slower-paced real-life experiences. 

Their brains have become accustomed to instant responses, making ordinary activities seem less exciting in comparison. 

The takeaway? Controlled and limited screen time is important to prevent toddlers from becoming overly reliant on fast, easy, digital rewards for entertainment. 

Screens and Social Development  

The first three years of life are critical for a child’s social development. During this time, the brain is laying the foundation for communication, emotional understanding and relationships. 

Too much screen time can limit opportunities for toddlers to engage in ‘real-world’ social interactions – playing, talking, observing facial expressions and responding to tone of voice. These experiences help develop the frontal lobe, which is essential for interpreting social cues and building meaningful connections. 

While occasional screen use is unlikely to cause permanent harm, regular or extended exposure reduces opportunities for these foundational experiences. Encouraging play with real people and engaging activities is key for a child’s healthy social development. 

Screen Time and Sleep  

Screens are also known to affect sleep in people of all ages. The blue light emitted by tablets, phones and televisions suppresses melatonin production – the hormone that signals the body it’s time to sleep. 

For toddlers, melatonin naturally starts rising in the early evening, helping them wind down to screens, even two to three hours before bedtime, can delay this melatonin release, making it harder for them to fall asleep. 

Poor sleep leads to irritability, behavioural challenges and a weakened immune system. 

To protect your toddler’s sleep, limit screen use in the evening and introduce calming, screen-free routines instead, such as reading, quiet play or music. 

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Finding The Balance  

Screens aren’t inherently bad and technology can play a role in early learning and family connection. The key is balance and moderation: 

• Under 2 years: Avoid sedentary screen time, except for brief video calls with loved ones.
• 2-3 years: Less than 1 hour per day.
• 3-4 years: Keep sedentary screen time to 1 hour or less, focusing on high-quality content.

Instead of relying on screens to occupy a toddler, try interactive, hands-on activities: 

• Reading a book together.
• Drawing or crafts projects.
• Playing with toys that encourage thinking,creativityand movement. 

And keep meals screen-free to support family connection and better sleep. 

Every family is different, so find a balance that suits your routine and your child, using technology thoughtfully while prioritising real-world development. 

Research Findings  

• The 30 Minute Rule: 

A 2026 report found that 18-month-olds are 2-3 times more likely to develop language delays if their screen time exceeds 30 minutes a day. For every extra 30 minutes, the risk of speech delay increases by 49%. 

• Content Matters:

Studies show that 2 hours of creative play (like building in Minecraft) has a vastly different neurological impact than 2 hours of passive scrolling (like TikTok). 

• Tech Neck:

Paediatricians have noted cervical (spinal) strain in children as young as 8 years old due to hunched postures over tablets.  ‘Tech neck’ can lead to frequent neck pain, headaches and impaired concentration. 

Text: Courtesy of Jolani Becker. For BabyWombWorld  

Photo: Gallo/Getty  

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The reality is that more people are choosing to step away from relationships that are not working. They’re no longer ignoring issues that constantly resurface, hoping that they will magically change or disappear. In many cases, it’s a simple but difficult realisation: they were never truly compatible to begin with. They are waking up to the idea that they may be better off apart, and choosing to focus on themselves rather than a relationship that is no longer working. However, stepping away has its challenges when there is a child involved. 

Co-parenting is a trial-and-error process in and of itself – you get some things right and fail at others. It relies heavily on how much both partners are willing to make the new dynamic work, trying to create a sense of normalcy in what is an unfamiliar new reality. Co-parenting with an ex can be tough because you are forced to still have them in your life, and remain connected through the child you are both committed to. It requires constant communication, despite what has happened between you in the past – and this is never easy. Despite all of this, healthy co-parenting is possible. 

Treat it like a business 

Transitioning from being a romantic partner to a co-parent means shifting from a family of emotion to a family of’ logic. Treat the new environment as an ‘office’ or business partnership built solely on parenting responsibilities. 

The more cordial and less personal, the better. A meet-up does not have to turn into a coffee-and-cake catch-up. Just keep things polite and respectful, as you would in a business partnership. This is the core of platonic co-parenting. 

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Boundaries need to be established early on – and honoured consistently. Limited access between the parents can help eliminate confusion for both the parents and child, as well as prevent silent resentment building over time. 

An emotional shift is also necessary. This is not a move from love to hate, but from a personal, romantic context to a business-like dynamic – one that is entirely focused on the well-being of the child. In business, emotions are set aside, expectations are clear and plans are stuck to so that all parties can reach a common goal and benefit. Co-parenting, at its best, operates with the same clarity, structure and mutual respect. 

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Sudden changes can be harmful and create anxiety for both the child and the parents, leaving room for picking sides or the resurfacing of past issues and trauma. Consistency, on the other hand, creates stability for everyone. 

Getting technical 

The engine of successful co-parenting is fuelled by intentional planning and parental philosophies. Don’t be afraid to define routines around school, holidays, special occasions and custody. This prevents misunderstandings and escalating conflict. 

It’s about discussing the minor details before they become a communication breakdown and agreeing on parenting styles in the child’s daily life. Whether its sleepover pick-ups or discipline tactics, strong alignment is the formula to winning the co-parenting game. 

When both parents remain actively involved, co-parenting becomes less about conflict management and more about collaborative success. 

From personal to practical 

The traditional nuclear family (dad, mom and a couple of kids) is not the only family structure recognised these days. In fact, more people are starting to see the co-parenting lifestyle as the more ‘intentional parenting’ approach. 

Co-parenting is rooted in choice rather than the predictability of a relationship that starts with fire and begin to slow-burn and wither away over time. When the romance dies, healthy co-parenting is a testament to the fact that partnerships do not have to. 

More people are willing to appreciate the co-parenting arrangement, with its emotional and practical advantages. Co-parenting depends far more on the quality of the relationship between the parents than the separation itself. 

Research by psychologist Dr Mavis Hetherington, co-author of For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, posits that 75-80% of children raised in low-conflict, happily divorced and collaborative homes emerge as emotionally healthy individuals, compared with children from a high-conflict ‘intact family environment. 

Ultimately, co-parenting comes down to a very simple principle: the child comes first. It’s less about the past failed relationship and more about prioritising your child’s needs. When personal differences take a back seat, teamwork and trust are forged in the new dynamic. In this way, co-parenting shifts from being a resentful challenge to a fulfilling commitment.  

@intentionalparentingsaChild -centered coparenting places the child’s needs and well-being at the forefront, promoting a cooperative and supportive parenting dynamic. By working together and keeping the child’s best interests in mind, parents can create an environment that fosters the child’s growth, happiness, and overall development.♬ Aesthetic – Tollan Kim

Words by: Mbalentle Zangqa  

Photographs: Gallo/Getty Images 

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Tantrums, unruly kids rushing around all day, and a chaotic, messy home – sometimes it becomes too much. We want what’s best for our children, but less can be more: less stimulation, less choice and less scheduled activity.  

When your family life goes from busy to frenetic, take a time- out. Pause. Breathe. And see how Simplicity Parenting can restore calmness and happiness in your life.  

Declutter  

Having too much stuff can be distracting and overwhelming. Reduce toys by discarding broken, developmentally inappropriate (too old, too young), high stimulation (video games, flashing lights, battery-operated) and duplicate (one instead of five teddies) ones.  

Keep their favourite toys nearby and visible and store the rest out of sight. Then, circulate them like a toy library – the same with books.  

“As you decrease the quantity of your child’s toys and clutter, you increase their attention and capacity for deep play,” says Kim John Payne, the education expert who came up with the term ‘Simplicity Parenting’. He advises to declutter the entire home, down to the lighting and noise, to reduce sensory overload.  

Dial Back Activities  

Learn to say “no, thanks” to avoid a schedule that’s more than busy. Be selective about playdates, birthday invitations, after-school sports, music lessons and other activities. This way your child has enough time to enjoy each activity and still have plenty of free time.   

“A child who doesn’t experience leisure (or better yet, boredom) will always be looking for external stimulation, activities, or entertainment,” says Payne. He regards boredom as a ‘gift’ because it sparks creativity and resourcefulness.   

A rhythmical, predictable home life provides kids with a safe harbour. Creating rhythm means they know what to expect  

Create A Rhythm  

A rhythmical, predictable home life provides kids with a safe harbour. Creating a rhythm means they know what to expect – not in the sense of rigid routines, but how the daily family life is structured.  

This includes setting time aside for rituals, such as quiet time to decompress; laying the supper table together; and having family meals where you chat about everyone’s day. Parents shouldn’t strive to make every day exceptional, but rather to teach children to appreciate normality.  

“When every note is a high note, children lose the ability to fully engage in the present and to regulate their own time”, says Payne. “Ordinary days are the sustaining notes of life.”  

Reduce Screen Time  

Getting kids away from their screens is the bane of modern-day parenting. But you need to take charge here, as too much screentime impacts on childhood development. In line with the American Academy of Paediatrics’ guidelines, Payne suggests moving electronic devices out of sight for younger children.  

Further, there should be no screens at all for children under two, and limited exposure for those aged two and older. This will allow kids to actively engage with the real world, play outdoors and free up family time. But this only works if parents get off their phones too…  

Let Them Be Children  

Be careful of what you say in front of children. Filter out any adult information that may worry or scare them. “Too much information does not ‘prepare’ a child for a complicated world; it paralyses them,” says Payne.  

That’s why adults should talk to children in an age- appropriate way, about topics they can fully understand. The idea is to limit our fast-paced ‘too much, too soon’ culture and instead to provide a simple and stress-free childhood for as long as possible.  

Good Reads: To learn more, check out these parenting self-help books:  

Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids by Kim John Payne   

Simple Happy Parenting: The Secret of Less for Calmer Parents and Happier Kids by Denaye Barahona   

Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with Simplicity by Diane Boden  

Words by Silke Colquhoun
Photography: Gallo/Getty Images

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Children experiencing constipation may not always have the vocabulary to express their discomfort, making it difficult to communicate their inability to pass stools normally. 

Dr Suveena Bisetty, a specialist paediatric gastroenterologist practising at Netcare St Augustine’s Hospital in KwaZulu-Natal, shares how children may display symptoms of constipation and when it is necessary to seek medical attention.  

“For most children, constipation is usually self-limiting and should resolve itself without the need for medication. However, parents need to be aware that if a child has prolonged constipation that is left untreated, it can lead to the development of other problems,” she advises.  

Parents should watch for the following signs, which may indicate their child is having difficulties with bowel movements:  

• Crossing ankles or legs 
• Stiffening the body
• Attempting to hide during defacation 
• Crying or sweating on the toilet
• Pushing against walls, the floor or objects when trying to pass a stool 

“The child may experience abdominal pain and could pass overflow diarrhoea even though they are constipated, as some of the stool manages to move past solid waste remaining in the bowel,” Dr Bisetty says.  

The Paris Consensus on Childhood Constipation Terminology (PACCT) defines constipation as a period of eight weeks with at least two of the following symptoms: 

• defecation frequency less than three times 
• faecal incontinence frequency greater than 2 once per week 
• passage of large stools that clog the toilet
• palpable abdominal or rectal faecal mass 
• stool-withholding behaviour
• painful defecation. 

The Bristol Stool Chart is a clinical assessment tool that describes the shape and consistency of stools —from type 1 ‘very constipated’ to type 7 ‘diarrhoea’. Dr Bisetty says that constipation may be type 1, which is described as separate hard ‘lumps, pebbles, ribbons or nuts that are difficult to pass’ or  type 2, slightly constipated, where the stool forms a sausage shape with large lumps.  

“If constipation persists, parents must consult their child’s paediatrician or healthcare practitioner to establish the cause and resolve or manage it. If left untreated, the child could develop haemorrhoids, or piles, as the perianal veins become damaged and engorged, and this may lead to bleeding.”  

She says that other potential impacts of severe constipation could include faecal impaction, where the bowel may become obstructed, which often presents with vomiting. Faecal incontinence or encopresis may also occur, where the child loses control of their bowel movements, often resulting in soiling of the underwear or ‘accidents’.  

Ensure your child eats more fibre and drinks more water and has less than 500ml of dairy products per day

Common causes of constipation  

“Constipation has numerous causes across all age groups. Establishing the root cause of persisting constipation is essential to treating it correctly,” Dr Bisetty says.  

► Motility causes relating to stool movement may include dietary aspects, such as not enough fibre and/or water or a food protein intolerance. It could also be a sign of irritable bowel syndrome, colonic inertia, pelvic floor disorders or Hirschprung’s disease (a congenital condition where the colon’s muscles do not function normally, causing problems with passing stool).  

► Metabolic causes include diabetes, chronic kidney disease, high calcium intake (which is more common with supplements in paediatric patients), low potassium levels, hypothyroidism and hyperparathyroidism.  

► Neurogenic causes relating to the nerves may include multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injury or pathology from birth, stroke, neuropathy or myopathy in children with cerebral palsy.  

► Some medications may have constipation as a side effect – these include opioids that contain codeine, anti-inflammatories and certain cough syrups, iron or calcium supplements, some antidepressants or mood stabilisers and diuretics. Chronic laxative use is also a risk factor.  

► Mechanical factors affecting the gastrointestinal tract are less common in children.  

► Other causes of constipation may include autoimmune conditions such as scleroderma, a connective tissue disease; coeliac disease, a chronic autoimmune disorder where the ingestion of gluten leads to damage in the small intestine; food allergies; a split in the lining of the anus, known as an anal fissure; or psychological factors.  

When to seek help  

“It is imperative to seek medical attention for any of the complications described above, as well as in any of the below instances,” Dr Bisetty says. 

• Symptoms of constipation from birth or in the first few weeks of life.
• The newborn does not pass stool or has delayed stool from 72 hours old. 
• If a child has to miss school due to constipation and related discomfort. 
• Ribbon-like stools. 
• Leg weakness or locomotor movement delay. 
• Abdominal distension (stomach extending from the body) with vomiting. 
• Abnormal appearance of the anus.

“In some cases, children’s constipation may require radiological investigation to exclude other potential underlying diseases, and your doctor may order blood tests and a stool sample for analysis.”

Return to regularity  

Dr Bisetty says that treatment of constipation is multifactorial, and that diet is a crucial component. “Parents should ensure the child eats more fibre and drinks more water, and they should have less than 500ml of dairy products per day. The child should not have processed foods and eat more vegetables and less red meat. 

“Parents should encourage good toilet habits and teach children that their knees need to be above the level of their hips, with no pushing or straining when passing stools. If needed, they may require the assistance of a pelvic floor physiotherapist,” she adds 

By: MNA on behalf of Netcare St Augustine’s Hospital
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Text courtesy of Club magazine

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There’s a saying that parents should give their children two things: roots to know where home is, and wings so they can fly off to live their own lives. It can be tricky to get the balance right between providing a stable, safe foundation (the roots) while giving your child the confidence to explore, learn and grow (the wings).  

“Becoming a parent is a big challenge for anyone and although mostly rewarding, parenting can be difficult and demanding,” says Childline SA, which operates a free 24/7 helpline for children and concerned adults and provides online counselling. 

“Even though you may think about your child with love and affection, you may still feel unsure of yourself and question your parenting skills,” according to Childline‘s free parenting guide, which gives practical advice and the reassurance that there’s no single ‘best way’ to raise children.  

While South Africa can be a beautiful place for families, it’s also burdened with social problems such as inequality and high crime, with chilling statistics of violence against children. So, how can parents protect and prepare their little ones for this reality? 

Get the basics right  

Children have the legal right to shelter, nutrition, education, healthcare and family care. In other words, it’s on you to provide a safe home (child-proofed for young kids), nourish your child with a healthy diet (less junk food and sugary drinks), send them to school, and keep them healthy with hygiene, routine vaccinations and health checks.  

Watch out  

Keep an eye on very young children, or ensure they have a caregiver, to avoid them getting hurt or lost. Always know where your child is and who they are with. Thanks to technology, you can now attach an Apple AirTag to your child’s backpack and track them via the `Find Me’ service. You can monitor older kids by giving them smartwatches or phones. Many SA parents with teenagers use location-sharing apps such as Life360 for emergencies and peace of mind when travelling alone or at night.  

Set clear rules  

“Children need to understand what is and is not acceptable. Make sure they know why rules are needed – and that if they are broken, there will be consequences,” says Childline. “Remember that shouting, name-calling and threatening can damage a child psychologically just as much as hitting can. Criticise the behaviour, not the child.” (For example, say “Please tidy your room” rather than “You’re such an untidy child.”)  

Knowing what’s right or wrong can also help children say ‘no’ when others behave inappropriately towards them – sidestepping unsafe situations that could include exposure to substances, bullying or sexual abuse.  

Be safe online  

To enforce your rules on screen time and to flag potentially dangerous online activity, you can monitor your child’s phone and devices with mobile apps (such as Google Family Link or Bark). FYI Play It Safe tracks social-media use, alerting you when it detects signs of cyberbullying, self-harm, suicidal thoughts or online grooming by sexual predators. It’s important to respect your child’s privacy by discussing with them how you’ll use these apps. Tracking apps should be for safety, not snooping on them.  

Teach problem-solving  

“Naturally, parents want to keep their kids safe. But eliminating all risks could rob kids of learning resiliency,” says Lynn Lyons, a US psychologist and author. The key is allowing appropriate risks and teaching your kids essential life skills, she says on Psych Central. “Start young. The child who’s going to eventually get his driver’s license will have started at age five, learning how to ride his bike and look both ways.”  

Over-protecting kids only fuels their anxiety, warns Lynn. “When your child faces a challenge, engage with them to figure out how they can handle it. Give them the opportunity, over and over, to figure out for themselves what works and what doesn’t.”  

Essentially, it all comes back to giving a child wings – by not shielding them from life’s challenges but teaching them to problem-solve and stand up for themselves.

Growing up in SA  

► One third of South Africa’s population (20.9 million) is under 18 years old.  

► One in every five children does not live with either of their biological parents.  

► Only 17% of the poorest children have both parents living with them, while 73% of children in the wealthiest SA households live with both their parents.  

► A study of SA adolescents (15-17 years old) showed that half had experienced corporal punishment at school, 26% had been physically hurt by an adult, 26% suffered some form of sexual abuse and 13% emotional abuse, while 12% faced neglect.  

*Source: UCT Children’s Institute

By: Silke Colquhoun
Photography by: Shutterstock
Text courtesy of Club magazine

Also read: How to raise a confident and comfortable introverted child

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As a parent, your child’s wellness is undoubtedly your main priority – even if they haven’t arrived yet or have just made their entrance into the world. This, of course, includes doing everything in your power to ensure a better and brighter future for them. 

One of the most important building blocks for creating that future is providing the best possible education for your child. With the cost of education rising every year, it’s crucial to start thinking about saving for their education as soon as possible.  

The rising cost of education  

‘Parents need to understand the rate at which educational costs are increasing. Where normal inflation sits at around 5% per year, educational inflation in South Africa is currently around 7%,’ says Marius Pretorius, Head of Marketing: Retail Savings and Income at Old Mutual*.  

‘To put this into perspective,’ she adds, ‘if your little one starts Grade R in 2024, you’re likely to spend around R1.4 million [for them] to complete public schooling and a standard four-year bachelor’s degree. And if you’re considering private schooling, get ready to fork over a staggering R2.6 million.’  

If you plan to have children in future, or if your children haven’t yet reached school-going age, be aware that these costs will keep increasing. That’s why it’s essential to start thinking about education costs now.  

Breaking down the added expenses  

When budgeting for your child’s education, you need to consider costs beyond tuition fees. Additional expenses such as textbooks, uniforms, sports gear, transport, extracurricular activities and boarding fees must form part of your budget. Most schools also require students to have tablets or laptops, which can be pricey and need replacing every few years.  

‘The educational landscape is changing, and this might also impact how you budget for your child’s tuition,’ adds Pretorius. ‘For instance, taking a gap year after matric has become common – that means starting tertiary education a year later, which adds an extra year’s inflation onto the potential cost. You might want to put something extra aside to help your child start their own business after graduation. The education framework is no longer just a set path – it can be approached in many ways, each with its own opportunities and cost implications.’  

The true value of education

The statistics speak for themselves – the higher your child’s education level, the better their chances in the job market. Likewise, it’s a proven reality that higher education levels directly correlate with higher salaries and job satisfaction.  

Consider this:  

• 63.5% of matriculants get employed**. 
• 87.5% of graduates get employed**. 

A good plan begins with good advice

Every parent faces unique circumstances, so getting help from a financial adviser can make all the difference.  

A skilled financial adviser can help you calculate how much you need to save, depending on when you start, and they can also help you work out how to free up money in your budget and still manage your current financial obligations. They could also assist you in maximising your tax efficiency and adjusting your approach to finances to accommodate life changes, in addition to providing the peace of mind that comes with having a professional guiding you through the complexities of education planning and helping you make informed financial decisions.  

Old Mutual has also created several free tools and calculators to help parents get started at www.oldmutualeducationtools.co.za  

It’s never too early to start saving for your child’s education. The longer you give yourself, the more likely you are to keep up with the perpetual rise in educational costs. Give your little one a big advantage by speaking to an accredited financial adviser today. Visit oldmutualeducationtools.co.za or call 0860 66 66 59. 

* Old Mutual Data: Investment strategies are taken at their target midpoint. CPI (Consumer Price Index) or inflation is set at 5% per year. Education inflation has been set at 7%. Although tuition fees were sourced during research, these figures can vary from year to year. Exchange rates at the time of going to print are assumed as follows: 1 USD is R18.50, and 1 GBP is 23 ZAR 

**Statistics SA – Business Tech Article, December 2021. 

Old Mutual Life Assurance Company (SA) Limited is a licensed FSP and Life Insurer. 

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Our moms have different personalities, aesthetics and likes, so it can often be hard to find inspiration that’s a little more geared to her individual tastes online. We’ve got the perfect gift guide for every type of mom, just in time for Mother’s Day! 

The Sporty Mom  

She’s probably going to the gym today and taking part in that fun run tomorrow! Your mom loves to stay fit and any excuse to be active. You can always count on signing up for a class doing something like dance or yoga together before grabbing a coffee as a good Mother’s Day spoil. We recommend getting her cute loungewear like the Faded Relaxed Joggers from Y&G. You can also get her a graphic crew-neck sweater she can cosy up with after her run, such as this New York Graphic Sweat Top from Foschini. If you’re willing to spend a little more, you can get her a pair of comfy Nike Metcon 5’s in Lilac Bloom. All available online from Bash. 

 

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The Fancy Mom 

Who doesn’t like a little glamour? If your mom loves anything that’s luxurious and sure to have her stand out, she’ll love these 18ct Gold Plated CZ Bar Studs with Green Dangle CZ from Galaxy & Co. If those aren’t enough this Gold Plated Sterling Silver Cubic Zirconia MAMA Pendant from American Swiss is sure to show her you appreciate her! All items available from Bash, online. She’ll be getting compliments all day long! 

 

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The Cosy Mom  

If your mom is into all things hot chocolate, cardigans and a Netflix binge, you’ve got a Cosy Mom! Try taking her out to a cute café she’s never been to and catching a movie. The best things to get her are the winter essentials such as borg jackets, beanies or scarves. We recommend the Y&G Teddy Borg Jacket,  Cable Knit Pom Pom Beanie and chic Maxi Knitted Scarf from Foschini – all available online from Bash. These items are all in neutral colours, so she’ll be able to style them with the rest of her wardrobe easily! 

 

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The Boss Mom  

The first words you think of when you think of your mom are probably “organised”, “sophisticated” and “classy”. To keep her on track, you could get her this Michael Kors Lexington Turqoise Dial Gold Plated Stainless Steel Bracelet Watch from American Swiss. Pair it with this Satin Volume Sleeve Blouse from Foschini or Luella Large Jacquard Branded Tote for her to store all her work essentials in; available on Bash. Make sure she continues to make those boss moves in style!  

 

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The Cool Mom  

She’s going with the flow and that’s why we love her! Take her to a pottery- or cooking class where the two of you can laugh and be creative for Mother’s Day. You can get her this gorgeous Yellow Gold Crusaders Medallion Pendant from American Swiss, this Abercrombie & Fitch Authentic Self EDP, or this Textured Balloon Sleeved Tunic from Foschini on Bash. Try wrapping each item in a gorgeous, patterned piece of material as a modern twist on gift wrapping that she can later fashion into a bag accessory or neckerchief.  

 

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