If shorter, colder days leave you feeling low, keeping a selection of easy mood-lifters ready to go can make it easier to banish the winter blues. So take this as your sign to create your own ‘dopamine menu’: a personalised list of small, enjoyable activities you can turn to when your mood or motivation dips. (Nicknamed the ‘feel-good’ hormone, dopamine is a crucial component of your brain’s reward system, driving motivation, pleasure and learning.) Think of it as a toolkit of simple, feel-good habits that help brighten your day, one small choice at a time. 

Here are a few popular ideas to get your started.  

@ella_victoriaaa Life hack: create a dopamine menu to beat the winter blues ✔️ #dopaminemenu #moodbooster #winterblues #bucketlist #creatorsearchinsights ♬ original sound – Ella Victoria

Quick wins 

When energy is low and motivation feels out of reach, quick wins are small, low-effort actions designed to gently shift your mood in under five minutes. 

• Listen to your favourite upbeat song. 

• Dress in your favourite brightly coloured clothes – also known as ‘dopamine dressing’. 

• Cuddle your pet or ask for a hug. 

• Watch silly or funny videos on your phone: science says it is “associated with an instant effect in stress reduction and well-being improvement”. Laughter is medicine.  

• Try ‘box breathing’ for a few minutes: inhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and repeat. 

@nickcapolino Give me 60 seconds and I’ll teach you a simple breathwork exercise 🧘🏻‍♂️💨 #meditate #meditatewithme #breathwork #breathworkhealing #breathworktechnique #breathworkfacilitator ♬ original sound – Nick | Mens Health 🧘🏻‍♂️

Sensory comforts 

Sensory comforts work by grounding you in physical pleasure and warmth, helping to soothe an overstimulated or low mood state through touch, taste, smell and temperature. 

• Make yourself a mug of your favourite hot beverage. 

• Eat a square of good quality dark chocolate (proven to boost dopamine). 

• Sit in the sun (if it’s out) for five minutes (don’t forget SPF). 

• Treat yourself to a candlelit bath with your favourite self-care products. 

• Sniff lemon essential oil, a natural mood-booster. 

@justlovepureoils Feeling down? 🍋 Lemon essential oil is a natural mood booster and can help lift your spirits with just a few deep breaths! Watch how easy it is to use aromatically. 🌿✨ DM me to learn more about the benefits of essential oils! #NaturalWellness #MoodBooster #LemonEssentialOil #Aromatherapy #HolisticHealth #EssentialOilsForMentalHealth #NaturalRemedies #FeelGoodNaturally ♬ Soft and minimal instrumental music(1259336) – MaxRecStudio

Smart moves 

Movement doesn’t have to mean a workout – even brief bursts of activity can help lift energy levels and create a noticeable shift in your mood. 

• Go for a power walk around the block. 

• Take 10 minutes to stretch or do some light yoga. 

• Stand and do 10 to 20 squats for a mood-boosting ‘movement snack’, ideally at intervals spread throughout your day. 

• Try this 20-minute home workout – zero equipment needed. 

• Put on your favourite party banger and do a dopamine dance. 

@threadtherapyyy HOW TO DOPAMINE DANCE🕺🏽⚡️ 1️⃣ hey siri play all time bangers 2️⃣ disconnect brain from body 3️⃣ move however you want 4️⃣ dont stop until youre smiling 5️⃣ emphasis on letting your body move however it wants to 6️⃣ if youre sweaty and smiling youre free to go 😁 #dance #dopaminedance #dopamine #wellbeing #selfcare #sundayfunday #sundayreset #psychology #taylorswift #mentalhealth #sundayscaries #fyp ♬ I Can Do It With a Broken Heart – Taylor Swift

Creative outlets

Creative activities help redirect focus outward, giving your brain a gentle reward loop through expression rather than effort or performance. 

• Create a vision board, focusing on health and happiness. 

• Take a ‘photography’ walk and snap pictures of what you see through an artistic lens. 

• Attend an art workshop or class. 

• Knit a scarf – knitting been shown to regulate the nervous system. 

• Doodling activates your brain’s reward centre (governed by dopamine) and improves memory. 

Joy boosters 

Joy boosters are slightly more intentional activities that help you reconnect with pleasure, meaning and delight in your day. 

• Start a joy journal – keep a record of moments and activities that spark joy in your day. 

• Curate a feel-good playlist. 

• Re-organise or declutter a part of your home or office that’s been neglected. 

• Bake something delicious. 

• Watch your favourite feel-good movie. 

@itsjeniferdomingos The top comfort films on my dopamine menu 🤍 When I tell you that these filmes always make me smile through hard times, I’m not joking 🥹 #lifeinyour20s #20s #twenties #twentieslife #dopaminemenu #movierecommendation #moodboost #adviceforgirls #comfortcreator ♬ original sound – Jenny | Life in your 20s ✨

Photography: Freepik 

Also read: An honest look at emotional intelligence

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Emotional intelligence is often spoken about as a strength, something we admire in others and one of those qualities most of us believe we have – until life tests it. It’s easy to recognise emotional awareness in others: the friend who listens without interrupting, the colleague who handles pressure with calm, the partner who communicates with care.

But emotional intelligence (EQ) isn’t revealed in calm moments. It’s revealed in the ones that press our triggers. It shows up in the argument that escalates faster than we expected, the feedback that stings more than it should, or the silence we keep choosing instead of saying what we really feel.

At its core, emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise, understand and manage emotions, not only your own but of those around you. However, here’s the uncomfortable truth – the real work of emotional intelligence begins where comfort ends, which is in the quiet, often confronting act of turning inwards, because actually recognising your own level of emotional intelligence is often harder than developing it.

@ahmelaws

It requires something many of us are not accustomed to, which is honest self-awareness. As Harvard psychologist Susan David, known for her work on emotional agility, says: “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” That discomfort is especially present when we begin to question how emotionally aware we actually are.

The blind spots we don’t see

No one walks around thinking, “I lack emotional awareness.” We assume we’re good at reading situations, managing reactions and understanding others.

What we often assess is our intention, not our impact.

You might think:

“I was just being honest.”

Whereas someone else experienced it as harsh.

“I didn’t want to cause drama.”

In reality, you avoided a necessary conversation.

As Susan puts it, “We are masters at rationalising our behaviour in ways that protect our self-image.”

This is where the gap lives between who we believe we are emotionally and how we actually show up. One of the biggest challenges in recognising our own EQ lies in blind spots. Whether we want to admit it or not, we all have them. They’re ingrained patterns shaped by upbringing, cultural expectations, past experiences and even survival mechanisms we’ve developed over time.

Many of us learned early on which emotions were ‘acceptable’ and which were not. Over time, we’ve adapted, suppressed or deflected – especially in environments where emotions were dismissed or avoided – and eventually, those patterns become invisible to us.

Emotional autopilot is comfortable. It allows us to react without questioning, and to justify our behaviour without examining it too closely.

What high EQ actually looks like

Emotional intelligence isn’t loud or performative, it’s subtle. It shows up in the pause before a reaction; in the decision to listen properly rather than interrupt; in the ability to sit with discomfort instead of immediately trying to fix or avoid it.

Stephanie Vermelen, one of South Africa’s leading EQ experts, emphasises that emotional intelligence is less about what we know and more about how we apply that knowledge in real-time interactions. People with high EQ don’t just hear words – they pay attention to tone, body language and what’s left unsaid. They regulate their emotions, not by suppressing them but by choosing how to express them constructively.

Another key marker is empathy, the ability to step outside of your own perspective and genuinely consider someone else’s experience. Psychology research consistently points to four core domains: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.

In everyday life, this translates into small, observable behaviours:

• Noticing when you’re triggered and choosing not to escalate.
• Taking responsibility without being
• Being open to feedback, even when
• Holding space for someone else’s emotions without making it about you.

According to Professor Pumla Gobodo-Madikizela, psychologist and head of trauma and transformation research at Stellenbosch University, emotional intelligence is not just about managing feelings; it’s about engaging with them meaningfully, even when they are uncomfortable or complex. That is when you start to see the quiet strength of emotional intelligence. It’s not about perfection but awareness and intentionality.

When EQ needs strengthening

Low or underdeveloped emotional intelligence doesn’t always present as obvious dysfunction. Often, it’s quieter and more familiar. It can look like defensiveness disguised as confidence, avoidance framed as “keeping the peace”, struggling to apologise without justification, repeatedly finding yourself in the same relational conflicts.

Perhaps the most telling sign is emotional repetition, finding yourself in the same negative relationship patterns, having the same arguments or making decisions that lead to the same outcomes. Without reflection, patterns remain invisible – and what we don’t recognise, we can’t change.

Why self-reflection changes everything

This is where self-reflection becomes the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. As self-help author Brené Brown reminds us: “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome It’s the practice of stepping back and asking: “What am I feeling? Why did I react that way? What’s really going on beneath the surface?” It requires honesty, and sometimes it’s uncomfortable, but it’s also incredibly powerful.

According to Susan, emotional agility is built on being able to navigate and name emotions with accuracy, rather than avoiding them.

This naming is more powerful than it sounds, as it creates space between feeling and reaction, allowing for intentional response

Self-reflection builds accountability too. It shifts the focus from “what happened to me” to “how did I show up in that moment?” That shift alone can transform relationships, communication and decision-making.

The ripple effect of EQ

Emotional intelligence doesn’t exist in isolation. It shapes every aspect of life.

In relationships, it allows for deeper connection and healthier conflict resolution.

In leadership, it builds trust and psychological safety. In decision-making, it helps balance logic with emotional insight.

Research shows that EQ is strongly linked to performance and success not because it replaces intelligence, but because it enhances how we use it.

The good news is that emotional intelligence is not fixed at birth. It’s a skill that can be developed with practise and intention.

How to build your EQ

• Start by pausing, even for a fer seconds, before responding, which can change the entire outcome of a conversation.
• Name your emotions with more precision.

Instead of saying “I’m stressed”, try saying “I’m feeling overlooked” or “I’m anxious about this”. By naming your emotions, you are able to articulate your experiences more clearly, both to yourself and others.

• Write things down. Journalling helps you to track behaviour or thought patterns you might otherwise miss.
• Ask for feedback from people you trust, not to defend yourself but to learn.
• Practice intentional empathy by truly listening, even when you disagree.

Growth doesn’t come from judgment; it comes from a willingness to understand.

@lukebrockpsychologist

An Invitation to show up

Taking an honest look at your emotional intelligence can feel confronting. It asks you to sit with discomfort, to question familiar patterns and to acknowledge where you might fall short. It is, however, also an invitation – an opportunity to show up more fully in your life, your relationships and your decisions.

EQ is not about getting it right all the time. It’s about being aware enough to notice when you’re not and choosing to come back, again and again, with more understanding and compassion. It’s not proven in your best moments; it’s revealed in the ones that test you.

That quiet work is where real character is built, away from applause and praise, beyond perception, in the everyday choices that shape how you show up and define your relationships, your leadership and the kind of life you create.

Words by: Lerato Mashile

Illustrations: Gallo/Getty images

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Winter brings harsher conditions and a whole new set of challenges for your skin. As the temperature shifts, so should your skincare routine – especially for melanin-rich skin, which requires extra hydration and barrier support in the cold months. We asked a few bare-faced local beauties for tips.

Dry is out, balanced is in

Zithobe Macheli, affectionately known as ‘The Skin Girl, developed a passion for skincare after struggling with acne at a young age.

“I remember spending so much time trying to figure out how to heal my skin- trying different products, consulting dermatologists and doing extensive research by reading medical journals on skin and skincare,” she says.

Since then, Zithobe has grown into a trusted voice within the beauty and skincare space, not only as a content creator but as an industry contributor.

She won the Woman&Home Best Beauty Influencer Award in 2022 and returned as a judge for the 2025 awards, reflecting her continued influence and credibility within the industry. She is also currently part of the CON (Creme of Nature) Squad and has collaborated with top-tier brands such as Garnier, Eucerin, L’Oréal, Nivea and Dermalogica.

When it comes to her skincare philosophy, she emphasises balance and restoration. “It’s essential to me that a product restores what my skin naturally contains – lipids like ceramides or squalene, and ingredients such as collagen and hyaluronic acid.”

See below for her top skincare tips.

The new consumers

Shannon Dougall, founder of local brand SKINfunctional, notes that younger consumers, Gen Z and Millennials, have grown up with unprecedented access to information.

Beauty product ingredient lists are scrutinised on TikTok, routines are debated in online communities, and dermatologists are easily accessible on social media. This generation is informed, discerning and less influenced by traditional advertising and more by influencers who show proven results.

SA’s beauty market grew 7% year-on-year to reach R65 billion in 2024, significantly outpacing GDP growth of just 0.6% over the same period.

Nick Hunt, general manager at RTSC (Retail Therapy Strategic Consulting) says, “What the data confirms is what we are seeing on the ground every day. This category is growing because consumers are demanding more from it, not because of clever marketing but because the products deliver visible results.”

Asiphe Nompozolo (@missmpozie), another popular beauty and lifestyle content creator, shares: “The best skincare advice that has always worked for me is simple: never skip sunscreen. Even in winter, applying sunscreen consistently and following correct usage instructions is essential for protecting and maintaining healthy skin.”

As someone who struggles with dry skin, she says that in the colder months, hydration is the foundation of her routine.

Rather than layering multiple products, Asiphe suggests a simple three-step routine. Cleanse with a hydrating face wash, apply a hydrating serum and follow with sunscreen and a hydrating, sealing moisturiser. “This approach maintains moisture levels without overwhelming the skin, which is especially important during the colder, drier months.”

In her daily skincare routine, Asiphe focuses on using hydrating products from the very first step. “I apply my products while my skin is still slightly damp from cleansing. This helps lock in the moisture more effectively.

And in winter, I switch to richer, more nourishing formulas that support my skin barrier and prevent dryness”

The anti-ageing angle

The narrative is evolving. Today’s consumer is no longer focused on reversing time, but on optimising skin health, resilience and regeneration. Environmental stressors compound the issue. In South Africa, high UV exposure – even in winter – remains one of the leading contributors to premature ageing. Add pollution, stress and lifestyle factors, and the skin’s natural capacity to regenerate is compromised earlier than expected.

Your skin is your body’s largest organ, and it deserves the same care you give to your overall health. From your mid-20s, collagen production declines by about 1% per year. By the time women reach their 40s and 50s, cumulative collagen loss contributes to thinning skin, reduced elasticity, fine lines and slower wound repair.

“Consumers are becoming more informed about the biology of ageing,” says Shannon. “They understand that hydration alone will not restore firmness or elasticity. They are looking for ingredients that stimulate cellular renewal and support structural integrity, which is where growth factors and regenerative molecules enter the conversation.”

@ingletondermatology

Omila Goboka

Joburg-based fashion and beauty influencer @omilagqoboka believes that healthy skin plays a key role in feeling good every day.

She shares her winter routine:

• Hydration and vitamin C are essential contributors to radiant skin. Vitamin C is non-negotiable for achieving brighter, healthier-looking skin. My winter staples include Lelive All Glow’d Up Brighten + Clarify Serum (R319), with vitamin C and turmeric, and a hydrating mist.
• With winter requiring extra care, I incorporate a rich moisturiser while continuing daily sunscreen use. This is essential, even during winter.
• As a mother, I also rely on Epi-max Cream for my children, a product I myself use as a body lotion throughout the year.

@honour.health

Zithobe Macheli

With a passion for skincare ingredient education, she shares her insights on @zithobemacheli to help others achieve healthy, glowing skin. Her top three tips are:

• Prioritise hydration

Often overlooked, hydration is one of the simplest ways to maintain a healthy skin barrier and achieve ‘glass’ skin.

• Keep it simple

Embrace a minimalist routine, focusing only on what your skin truly needs; everything else will follow.

• Exfoliate gently

Over-exfoliation has become common, especially on social media, but it can damage the skin barrier. Since the skin naturally exfoliates through desquamation, exfoliating just once or twice a week is more than enough.

Asiphe Nompozolo

The winter essentials that keep her skin balanced, nourished and glowing:

1. Neutrogena Hydro Boost Supercharged Serum to lock in hydration. R289.90
2. Nip+Fab Illuminate Vitamin C Concentrate Extreme to protect and brighten. R579
3. Nivea Sun UV Face Shine Control SPF50 to protect from SA’s harsh sun. R219
4. Nivea Intensive Moisturising Body Cream to care for the rest of your skin too. R99.99

Prices correct at time of print and may change.

Words: Viwe Ndongeni-Ntlebi

Photos: Getty/Gallo images, Shutterstock, supplied.

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Most men chalk up fatigue, low mood or a fading sex drive to stress and the effects of ageing. But for some, these subtle and often overlooked changes may point to a deeper underlying issue – low testosterone (also called male hypogonadism). Recognising the signs early and seeking the right medical advice can make a significant difference to a man’s long-term health, well-being and overall quality of life.

The effects of low testosterone

“Testosterone underpins much of what men take for granted – strength, drive, focus and mood. When it dips, the effects ripple across body and mind,” says Ingrid Singels, associate director of Pharma Dynamics’ Scientific Division.

• Sexual health is often one of the first red flags. Low libido, erectile dysfunction and reduced spontaneous erections are well-documented in hypogonadal men.
• Men with low testosterone often report reduced muscle mass and strength, greater fat accumulation and slower recovery from exercise or injury.
• Testoserone also contributes to bone health; low levels are linked with lower bone density and higher risk of fracture.
• Mentally, low levels of testosterone are associated with depression, irritability, fatigue, poor concentration and diminished motivation.
• Beyond quality of life, observational studies suggest low testosterone may correlate with a higher cardiovascular risk and greater mortality in men.

@steven

Testosterone decline: who’s at risk and when

While testosterone levels naturally decline with age – typically by about 1% per year from the time a man reaches his 3os – the hormone never depletes completely.

Low testosterone generally stems from two main causes: primary hypogonadism, where the testes can’t produce enough testosterone, and secondary hypogonadism, where the brain fails to signal production properly.

Both can be linked to factors such as obesity, Type-z diabetes, chronic illness, certain medications, poor sleep, heavy alcohol use or high stress.

There is also what’s known as late-onset or adult-onset hypogonadism, which tends to develop gradually as men age. This form is more common in those who are overweight or obese, or who live with chronic conditions such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

“We often see a silent onset of hypogonadism,” says Ingrid. “Men don’t realise that the chronic fatigue, reduced strength or mood dips may have a hormonal root. That’s why early screening and dialogue with healthcare providers is absolutely critical.”

@moreplates

Prevention and early detection

While not all cases of testosterone deficiency can be prevented, maintaining a healthy weight, exercising, getting good sleep, reducing stress, limiting alcohol and eating a balanced diet can help lower the risk and support all-round healthy hormone levels.

Screening too, plays a key role. Pharma Dynamics has digitised the internationally recognised ADAM Screening Questionnaire for Low Testosterone (see above), allowing men to assess their risk online, download their result and share it with a doctor.

“This questionnaire provides men with an easy way to start important conversations with their GP – talks that many tend to put off or avoid because of stigma or embarrassment,” says Ingrid.

@drbergofficial

Seeking help and treatment options

If symptoms and screening results raise concern, the next step is a medical evaluation and blood tests. Treatment depends on the cause, other health conditions and the patient’s health goals.

“Before hormone therapy is prescribed, doctors often recommend addressing underlying factors first, like excess weight and poor blood sugar control, that might lower testosterone,” says Ingrid.

“These steps alone can sometimes make a noticeable difference.”

For men with noticeable symptoms and confirmed low testosterone levels, testosterone replacement therapy is the most direct option.

It comes in different forms, including gels, patches, injections (both short- and long-acting) and implants. Long-acting injections can provide stable hormone levels for weeks or months, which helps avoid fluctuations and makes it easier to stick with treatment. Ingrid emphasises that testosterone is a regulated medicine in South Africa and doctors must carefully guide its use.

Text Courtesy of Meropa Communications/Pharma Dynamics.

Photos: Pexels

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1. Properly prep your skin 

Think of skin prep as your secret weapon: it’s the first step to a glowing, dewy face beat and the best way to keep dry patches from stealing the spotlight. “In the winter, having hydrating creams is key for keeping your skin moisturised,” notes celebrity makeup artist Dahlia Warner. 

@moskinatelier The secret to a flawless makeup is an intentional skincare base. Yes, I said intentional because knowing exactly what products to use before your makeup application is key hence why I have decided to share my secret with you guys. For my makeup base, I use @Dr.Althea US Aqua Marine Watery Cream and Aqua Marine Deep Serum. Try using these two before your makeup and you will thank me later. #dryskin #cakeymakeup #skincare #kbeauty #glowingskin ♬ LOS VOLTAJE – Sayfalse & Yb Wasg’ood & Ariis

2. Use a damp beauty blender 

Are you using your beauty blender incorrectly? Dampen your sponge before applying makeup. “It’s better for blending makeup on dry, winter skin because the moisture helps prevent makeup from clinging to dry patches,” says makeup artist Joseph Carrillo. “It ultimately creates a more seamless, natural and dewy finish,” he adds.  

@monika_mua_ Wet VS Dry beauty blender!! Which one are you?👀 #makeup #beautyblender #concealer #makeuptutorial @L’Oréal Paris ♬ maneater daryl hall and john oates – 😱

3. Steer clear of powder 

Skip powder products in the winter and choose cream-based formulas like cheek stains, balms or liquid makeup. “I think the biggest mistake people make in the winter is using heavy products with a powder base, like foundation powders or mineral foundations,” says makeup artist Susie Sobol. “These products can clog pores and lie on top of dry surfaces, causing the skin to look pasty and heavily made-up,” she adds. 

@nikkissecretxx I can’t believe putting my products in the snow meant they set soo much quicker😱 no powder necessary!! @Elizabeth Arden hydraplay skin perfecting daily moisturiser @Kylie Cosmetics skin tint in 6N @Makeup By Mario concealer in 340 @Charlotte Tilbury contour wand in medium/deep @rhode skin pocket blush in sleepy girl @byelliebeauty brow texture @Victoria Beckham Beauty contour wand @L’Oréal Paris UK lumi le glass in pearl @M·A·C Cosmetics snob lipstick elizabetharden 8 hour skin protectant #makeup #snowmakeup #makeuptutorial ♬ original sound – NikkisSecretx

4. Mix your primer with your foundation  

Foundation alone can make your makeup base look flaky, especially when battling winter skin. While many people use primer before foundation, an effective trick for a smoother, more hydrated look is to mix your foundation with a hydrating primer. “I always mix the two together and then apply [the combination] using a foundation brush. It gives a lightweight finish and leaves the skin with a luminous glow all day long”, explains makeup artist Jenny Kanavaros. 

@blackwidowevee #makeup #makeuphacks #fyp ♬ original sound – 🧸

Photography: Pexels

Also read: These Y2K beauty trends are back – with a modern twist, of course

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Y2K beauty is back!

The following trends are more wearable than you think and appeal to all ages – not just the Gen-Z aesthetic. Rather than a full throwback, today’s versions are easier to style and focus on polished details that fit effortlessly into everyday life. We share key beauty trends from the era that’s making a comeback, how they’ve evolved, and simple ways to incorporate them into your routine. 

The trend: Glitterball  

Then

In the early 2000s, glitter was bold, everywhere and unapologetic. Loose shimmer powders and gels were layered across cheekbones, collarbones, shoulders and even brows – giving skin a frosted, light-catching glow that defined Y2K sparkle. 

Now

Glitter has been refined for 2026. Strategic placement on high points such as cheekbones eyelids and collarbones creates a soft, ethereal glow. Shimmer-infused oils add subtle radiance to the body, giving skin a luminous effect. The look feels elegant, wearable – perfect for a touch of sparkle that isn’t overwhelming. 

@prettywitchcosmetics Lots of exciting new things coming in 2026! 💫💕🔮✨️🌈🌙 . . . #glitter #glittereyeshadow #eyeshadow #makeup #shimmer ♬ original sound – Ludwig®️ 📸

The trend: Frosted lips

Then

Seen on celebs such as Brandy, Christina Aguilera and Britney Spears, frosted eyeshadow defined Y2K glamour. Icy whites, silvers, pale blues, and lilacs were painted across lids, swept onto brow bones and packed into inner corners for maximum shimmer. Often paired with darker liners, the look emphasised sharp, angular eyes and a dramatic style. 

Now

Frosted lids are softer and more polished today. Creamy, blendable formulas with finer shimmer particles give a subtle glow rather than a heavy metallic finish. Sweep icy shades on the eyes for a look on its own or pair with a light gloss on the lips for an ethereal, fresh effect. 

The trend: Butterfly eyeliner 

Then

This look created artistic, statement-making eyes that were dramatic and eye-catching by using bright colours and exaggerated wing shapes inspired by butterfly wings. 

Now

Butterfly eyeliner has been softened for everyday wear. Light, floating wings lift and frame the eyes without harsh edges, creating a subtle, fluttery effect. To achieve the look, use a blendable pencil or liquid liner to lightly define the wing, keeping the shape soft and airy. Pair with minimal eye make-up and fresh, clean skin to let the eyes stand out naturally. 

@ultrabeautyamerica THIS EYELINER METHOD WENT VIRAL AGAIN | New Year 2026 American Classic Eyeliner is stepping back into the spotlight for New Year 2026, reviving a classic technique that already proved viral across YouTube and American beauty culture. This is the eyeliner look everyone copied before—and now it’s back with a sharper, cleaner, more advanced execution designed for modern HD cameras and high-retention content. In 2026, American eyeliner trends are about precision, lift, and intentional structure that transforms the eyes without overpowering the face. The 2026 eyeliner approach focuses on controlled placement rather than thickness. Thin lifted wings, micro flicks, soft tightlining, and gently diffused edges define the eye while keeping the look polished and wearable. This technique enhances lash density, elongates the eye shape, and creates a lifted outer corner effect that reads beautifully on camera. It’s one of the most replayed eyeliner styles in the US because it works across hooded eyes, almond eyes, and round eyes without looking heavy or dated. Color choice in 2026 remains refined and luxury-driven. Matte black, deep espresso, soft brown, and charcoal dominate American eyeliner trends, offering depth without harsh contrast. Blending is minimal but intentional, allowing the liner to sculpt the eye while maintaining a clean finish. This balance between sharpness and softness is what keeps this eyeliner style trending year after year on YouTube and Shorts. This New Year 2026 eyeliner look aligns perfectly with proven American beauty trends that continue to resurface: soft glam, clean girl makeup, luxury minimalism, elevated everyday glam, and timeless makeup techniques that always perform. Optimized for the US algorithm, this style delivers strong engagement across YouTube, YouTube Shorts, Instagram Reels, and TikTok—especially in major beauty-driven cities where trends are born and amplified. From Los Angeles to New York, Miami to Beverly Hills, this eyeliner technique represents the advanced American aesthetic for 2026—confident, polished, and camera-ready. A trend that already broke the internet once, refined and reborn for the New Year. #Eyeliner2026 #NewYearMakeup #AmericanMakeup #USBeautyTrends #YouTubeMakeup ♬ original sound – ULTRA Beauty America

The trend: Fanned-out butterfly lashes 

Then

Natural lashes took a back seat as false eyelashes became hugely popular, with celebrities like Jennifer Lopez famously wearing lashes made from red fox fur. The goal was dramatic, wide-eyed impact. 

Now

Lashes have been updated to feel lighter and more natural. A lengthening mascara or a few carefully placed individual lashes lift and fan the lash line, creating soft , fluttery eyes. Subtle lifting at the inner and outer corners opens the eyes, giving them a wide, expressive look. This approach enhances natural lashes without relying on heavy falsies. 

The trend: Juicy lips 

Then

Glossy lips were a defining Y2K staple, with high-shine, eye-catching finishes that made lips the focus of every look. Fruity or clear glosses were layered over bare lips or paired with lip liner, creating a statement (sticky!) pout that sparkled from every angle. 

Now

Today’s lip gloss delivers all the shine of the ’90s, but with modern comfort. Hydrating, lightweight formulas with nourishing ingredients like hyaluronic acid give lips a glossy, juicy finish that feels soft, smooth and effortless to wear. 

@ultrabeautyamerica THE AMERICAN LIP LOOK EVERYONE WAS OBSESSED WITH American lip makeup has always defined beauty trends, and this iconic lip look is inspired by a style that previously went viral across the United States. In 2026, American lip makeup is all about balance, precision, and confidence — lips that look full, smooth, and perfectly shaped without appearing overdone. This American lip style focuses on clean definition and natural enhancement. The lip line is softly sculpted, never harsh, creating the illusion of fuller lips while maintaining a realistic finish. Color choice plays a key role: modern nudes, soft pinks, classic reds, and rich browns that complement the skin tone instead of overpowering it. From Los Angeles to New York City, Miami to Chicago, and Beverly Hills to San Francisco, this lip makeup trend became popular because it works in real life and on camera. The texture looks smooth, the finish stays comfortable, and the lips remain the focal point without stealing attention from the entire face. American makeup trends prioritize technique over excess, and this lip look is a perfect example. Strategic lining, blended edges, and layered color placement create lips that appear naturally lifted and symmetrical. Whether worn glossy, satin, or softly matte, the result is polished and timeless. Cities like Atlanta, Dallas, Houston, Las Vegas, San Diego, and Phoenix helped push this American lip makeup trend into mainstream beauty culture. Influencers, professional artists, and everyday makeup lovers embraced it because it enhances facial harmony and elevates any makeup look instantly. This is not a short-lived trend — it’s a classic American lip makeup style that continues to trend because it delivers confidence, elegance, and versatility. Day or night, casual or glam, this look always works. Refined. Confident. Iconic. Pure American lip makeup. #AmericanLipMakeup #USBeauty #LipMakeupUSA #MakeupTrendsUSA #LosAngelesMakeup ♬ original sound – ULTRA Beauty America

The trend: Butterfly haircut 

Then

The butterfly haircut was all about volume, movement and soft drama. Think long, cascading layers paired with shorter pieces around the face that flick and float with every turn of the head. 

Now

While earlier versions of the butterfly haircut featured heavier, choppier layers styled with dramatic volume, today’s interpretation is softer and more blended. The focus is on enhancing natural texture rather than relying on structured blowouts or high-maintenance styling. One of the biggest appeals of the trend is its versatility, as the cut works across most hair types and lifestyles. Those who prefer air-drying can use a nourishing leave-in conditioner or lightweight oil to keep hair hydrated and smooth, while a round brush and gentle blow-dry through the roots adds subtle body and polish without compromising movement. 

Words: Leila Petersen 
Photography: Getty Images, Shutterstock, Supplied.  

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Eczema, or atopic dermatitis, is a long-term inflammatory skin condition causing rough, cracked, itchy, thick, discoloured patches, and sometimes crusted or weeping sores. While it can draw wary looks from others, it’s not contagious.  

Eczema is caused by an interaction between your environment and your genes. “People with eczema have a disrupted skin barrier. Any external irritants or allergens get absorbed into the skin, and the disrupted immune system overreacts to these components, resulting in a flare-up,” says Durban-based specialist dermatologist Dr Imraan Jhetam. 

Triggers can include chemicals or preservatives, cigarette smoke, allergens such as mould, dust mites or animal dander, food allergies or stress, as well as changes in temperature, such as when the seasons change. The US National Eczema Association estimates that 1o% of people will develop eczema during their lifetime. A 2021 review in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology suggests an eczema prevalence of 18% to 20% among children in South Africa. 

Temperature triggers  

Heat and cold are among the top triggers listed by the Allergy Foundation of South Africa (AFSA), which notes that “hot humid weather and cold dry weather can make the rash worse. Getting overheated and sweating a lot can cause a problem.” 

In addition, woollen or synthetic clothing worn in winter can irritate skin, and in summer, sunburn and chlorine in swimming pools may irritate and dry out skin.  

In spring, plants and trees release pollen that can trigger some people’s immune systems to go into overdrive, causing inflammation and irritation of the skin, and an eczema flare-up.  

What’s more, research published in Skin Pharmacology and Physiology suggests that pollen allergens may enter the skin through hair follicles, and remain there for up to a week, resulting in an ‘itch-flare cycle’.  

In the colder seasons, when the air dries and harsh winds can blow, skin can become dehydrated, brittle, scalyrough or tight. This can be worsened by indoor heating, causing itchiness and irritation.

Avoidance tactics  

The first line of defence is to avoid your known or suspected triggers. 

In autumn and winter:  

• If you need to wear wool for warmth, layer it over a soft cotton or silk garment to keep it away from skin or opt for a soft fleece or puffer jacket.  
• Wear long sleeves, long pants, gloves and hats to protect skin from environmental triggers, and apply a thick, fragrance-free moisturiser to exposed skin (with ingredients like glycerin, hyaluronic acid and ceramides) to help lock in moisture and soothe itchy, dry skin. Ask your health provider or pharmacist for advice. “Emollients with good-quality ingredients attempt to repair the skin-barrier dysfunction, which in turn reduces the skin’s overall sensitivity,” says Dr Jhetam.  
• Keep indoor allergens like dust mites at bay by investing in zip-on covers to seal off mattresses and pillows from your skin. 
• Use a humidifier to increase the moisture in the air. 
• Apply a fragrance-free moisturiser to your skin the minute you step out of the bath or shower to help lock in moisture, and prevent it evaporating into the cold, dry air so fast.  

In spring and summer: 

• Keep hydrated. Drinking water helps keep your body’s natural defences working well.
• To stay as cool and dry as possible, wear loose-fitting clothes of breathable natural fabric, such as cotton or linen.  
• Don’t hold back on the sunscreen, but Dr Jhetam notes: “For eczema patients, we recommend only mineral-based sunscreens that contain physical sun blockers like zinc and titanium oxide.”  
• If your eczema is linked to a pollen allergy, track pollen levels with The Real Pollen Count, and stay indoors at peak times. Ask your health provider about decongestants and nasal sprays to help calm inflammation throughout your body.

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Lifestyle hacks

“Living a healthy lifestyle can also help to manage eczema,” says Dr Jhetam. Get regular exercise, enough sleep and eat healthily. “Processed foods, artificial flavouring and preservatives tend to ‘irritate’ the immune system and can trigger flare-ups,” he says.

According to the survey in the Journal of Dermatological Treatment, the foods more likely to contribute to flare-ups for the majority of people were ultra-processed ones, dairy, gluten, white flour products and nightshades (tomatoes, peppers, brinjals).

“The best improvement in skin was noted when adding vegetables (47.6% of participants), organic foods (39.5%) and fish oil (35%),” the authors said. 

Treatment Options  

There is no cure for eczema but you can work with a dermatologist to determine the cause — and develop a treatment plan based on your age, the symptoms and their severity. For some people, it will clear up over time, but for others it’s a lifelong condition.  

Ask About:  

• Barrier moisturisers to help reduce water loss and repair skin. 

•  Cool compresses/wet wraps to help relieve itching (apply a medicated ointment to affected skin, then cover with slightly wet bandages).  

• Topical corticosteroid creams  to help relieve inflammation, itching and scaling. Note that these can have side effects over time. “We use topical steroids for short periods (7-14 days) to control the flare-up, then switch to non-steroidal creams,” says Dr Jhetam. “The strength of steroid cream needs to be adjusted according to the type of eczema and the location — for example, a milder steroid for the face.”  

• Oral medications such as systemic corticosteroids or immunosuppressants (injections or tablets), which should be used for short periods only.  

• Antihistamines to reduce night-time itching and scratching (which can lead to skin infections).  

• Antibiotics, if the eczema results in a bacterial skin infection.  

• Phototherapy, exposing affected skin to ultraviolet light waves to help prevent immune system responses that trigger eczema, and to prevent bacterial infections.  

• Biologics, that block proteins in the immune system that may trigger inflammation. Dupilumab is the only biologic registered for eczema in SA. “It targets the key inflammatory signalling molecules that are involved in causing atopic eczema and asthma (both are type-2 inflammatory conditions).”  

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Words: Glynis Horning 
Photographs: Gallo/Getty Images 

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Everyone and everything has its place in the world. And for a thriving ecosystem, even the critters we might fear have a vital role to play. This includes bees, who have a harsh reputation for presenting a threat when you’re out enjoying the sunshine. 

Though fuzzy and adorable, when a bee stings it can spoil the day – or result in far more serious consequences if a person has an allergy to bee stings. This is why it’s important to recognise the symptoms, know the right treatment and how to stay protected. We spoke to Dr Marinda McDonald of The Allergy Clinic in Randburg to find out more. 

The big ouch  

A bee sting results in a sharp burning pain, a red welt, a small white spot at the puncture site and slight swelling… Sounds terrible enough. They’re painful, but that pain and discomfort becomes heightened when there is an allergy to bee stings. 

How do you become allergic? In a nutshell, your immune system identifies the proteins in bee venom as dangerous, triggering an over-reaction in your body. Instead of just the normal reaction to pain and swelling, your body then releases chemicals (known as histamines) that cause an uncomfortable and sometimes life-threatening reaction. 

A bee sting allergy develops over time; the first sting is not likely to cause a reaction, but the body becomes more sensitised to the venom and future bee stings are likely to produce an adverse allergic reaction. If a person has a history of allergies (to various other substances), their tolerance for bee stings is likely to be diminished.  

A bee sting allergy presents as extreme redness or swelling at the sting site. This may increase and even spread over the next day or two. In some cases, the sting can immediately result in anaphylaxis (closing of the airways, a drop in blood pressure and shock), which requires emergency treatment. 

In the event of a bee sting 

• Move carefully to an area away from the bees, to avoid any more stings.
• If the stinger is still present in the skin, scrape it off (this is where the venom sac is present). You can do this with the edge of your fingernail, a bank card, a blunt knife or similar object. Do not use tweezers, as these will squeeze more venom out of the sac.
• Clean the affected area with soap and water. Apply a cold pack or ice for 10–20 minutes to help reduce swelling. 
• Treat the pain and itching with soothing creams (such as calamine lotion), painkillers and antihistamines. Do not scratch as this might lead to a skin infection. 

In the case of an anaphylactic reaction, the treatment is adrenaline (epinephrine). The person should immediately go to the nearest emergency room. If anyone in your family has previously had an anaphylactic reaction, then it’s imperative that you have an EpiPen (containing epinephrine, available by prescription) in your home first-aid kit. “Make sure it has not expired, that you know how it works and when to administer it,” says Dr McDonald. “It is also important to have an anaphylaxis action plan. If you suspect your child has a bee allergy, confirm the severity with your doctor and discuss lifestyle factors.” 

@texasbeeworksWhat to do if you get stung by a bee♬ original sound – Erika Thompson

Symptoms of a system reaction to bee stings (from mild to severe) 

• Itching and sharp, burning pain 

• Skin reactions, such as hives 

• Nausea, vomiting or diarrhoea 

• Swelling of throat and tongue 

• Difficulty breathing, wheezing 

• Dizziness or fainting 

• Weak, rapid pulse 

• Loss of consciousness 

Save yourself and the bees 

Dr McDonald explains that systemic reactions are more rare in children than “That said, bee stings are the most common cause of anaphylaxis in adults and second most common cause of anaphylaxis in children,” she says.  

Bee sting allergies are unlikely to go away as we age, but the severity of the reaction might lessen. Most children will outgrow their allergy if they’ve had a mild reaction, but more severe reactions have a 30–40% chance of a future severe reaction. 

How to avoid getting stung by a bee  

• Bees are attracted to perfume and sweet drinks or foods (so keep these covered when outdoors). They are also drawn to brightly coloured or floral clothing.  

• Don’t swat at a bee if it buzzes around you. It will feel threatened and more likely to sting. 

• If a bee lands on you or your child, gently move it to a flower or place to feed. You can use paper or tissue for this. Panic can make the bee feel like it’s under attack, which may result in it stinging you to defend itself. If you stay calm, you show both the bee and your child that there is nothing to fear. 

• Teach children to not stick their fingers into flowers; bees are attracted to the pollen. 

• Wear covered shoes; avoid walking barefoot across flowering fields or lawns. 

• Walk calmly away from any bees you see. If it’s a swarm, cover your nose and eyes and run for shelter inside a building or car. 

• Call in a beekeeper to remove any unwanted beehives around your home. 

Words by: Saadiqah Schroeder 
Photos: Pexels, Shutterstock 

Also read: Rachel Kolisi enters a new chapter

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1. Bronzed and beautiful  

Adding a bronzer and contour to the skin not only helps chisel the face, but it also brings a warmth to areas that can look sun kissed and glowy, even as autumn falls upon us. Cream bronzers give you more control over application, allowing you to concentrate on the product in specific areas, while a powdered bronzer is ideal for seamless blending and easy layering. The right shade of bronzer is dependent on your skin tone, so take care when choosing your depth of bronze – because after all, no one wants to look sunburnt instead of softly sculpted when it’s just the wrong shade of bronze.  

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2. Smoke that eyeshadow all the way out  

Smokey eyeshadow will always have a place in the makeup world, it just depends on how deep you want the shades to go. In autumn, smokey tones lean into deeper browns as opposed to harsh black and grey. Opt for a pumpkin spice shade across the lids, with a rich brown in the corners and crease line to deepen the shadow. A brown winged eyeliner finishes the look, while a touch of brown along the lower lash line adds even more smoke to the fire.  

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3. Bold lips bring the drama 

Often, we focus on the eyes when it comes to putting together a makeup look, but sometimes it’s a pigmented lip that can really pack a punch. Whether you are opting for a bold red, deep burgundy or a classic 90s brown, enhancing your lips on your wedding day can take your bridal makeup look to the next level. While matte lipstick was at the height of makeup back in 2016, it seems it has made its way back into the makeup world – just a bit more hydrating and more comfortable to wear. A matte finish is the way to go if you don’t want to worry about re-applying your lipstick throughout the wedding, and a trusty lipliner will ensure the sharpest edges to your darker shade.  

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4. Sparkle, shimmer and shine the night away 

A little sparkle will always go a long way, and when the nights start getting a little chillier, the shimmer needs to be turned up a notch for our autumn brides. Highlight those cheekbones, collar bones and brow bones to make them pop as the camera catches the light. Frosted makeup may be an older trend resurfacing, but we’re making it more bridal and elegant by leaning into the warmer shimmers on certain areas of the face. A top tip if you don’t enjoy full-on sparkle is to highlight the inner corners of the eyes for a subtle moment.  

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5. Warm tones and rich colours  

With the changing season, the summer sun fades, and autumn palettes come alive with their tones. It’s important to focus on warmer shades such as cinnamon, orange, and rich burgundy hues that can add the necessary warmth to your skin on your wedding day. One thing to note is that these colours can become very overpowering very quickly, so be sure to use them sparingly. If your cheeks are brighter, keep the lips and eyelids more subtle. If your eyeshadow features deeper browns and pumpkin spice shades, opt for a nude lip instead. This balance will help ensure the warm tones enhance your features rather than overwhelming them.  

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Words: Yashna Balwanth 
Photography:  Pexels

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Yes, it’s nice when our partners go above and beyond to make sure we’re happy and cater to our every whim. But life is busy, and sometimes we find ourselves settling for the bare minimum. This, however, looks different for everyone, and it’s up to you to establish what you need for your relationship to be long-lasting and for you to feel loved.  

To feel respected, secure and emotionally supported, it’s important to figure out what you need and express this to your partner. Here’s how to find out and communicate your bare minimum so that your bond can stay strong – no matter what life throws at you.  

Identity your non-negotiable emotional needs

In order to learn what your emotional needs are, you’ll need to do a bit of honest introspection. Ask yourself what makes you feel safe, validated and emotionally fulfilled. This could include elements such as open communication, trust, shared values or plenty of affection.  

The times in your past relationships when you felt resentful or misunderstood often signal that your needs were being unmet. Once you know what yours are, communicate them calmly and confidently to your partner, with the understanding that their needs might be different from yours and they need theirs met, too.  

@lifeinfocuswithsuttida Emotional safety should be a none negotiable. #relationships #relationshipgoals #selfrespect #innerchild #friends ♬ original sound – lifeinfocuswithsuttida

Define behaviours that make you feel secure

Behaviours are not only about words and promises (although these are important), but they’re also about actions. And these actions need to be consistent. To feel secure, you need your partner to be reliable, honest and emotionally available by keeping their promises, listening without being dismissive and making time for you unprompted.  

Your other half should also show you respect by not pushing your boundaries, valuing your opinions even if they differ from theirs, and handling disagreements calmly. Identifying actions that make you feel calm, heard and valued will help you set a personal standard.  

Reflect on patterns you won’t tolerate

Think back on your old relationships (or even your current one) and identify recurring behaviour that caused you pain. These are usually emotional unavailability, disrespect, control, infidelity or a lack of accountability. No one should have to tolerate them, and neither should you!  

Going through this teaches you about what drains your energy, undermines your confidence or compromises your mental well-being. By naming what you will no longer accept from a partner, you are showing signs of growth and are permitting yourself to choose healthier relationships that align with your values, dignity and sense of self-worth.  

Clarify the standards that align with your values

What truly matters to you beyond attraction and chemistry? This is what you need to ask yourself when identifying what values you need in a partner. It could be their traits such as honesty, mutual respect and independence, or aspects such as their faith, family values or having shared interests and world views.  

Having standards isn’t about being rigid or having unrealistic expectations. Because when your standards are rooted in your core values, you will experience less conflict in your relationship, feel more supported and have a better shot at making it in the long term.  

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Talking the talk

Once you have established what your needs are, you need to communicate them effectively to your partner so that they understand your bare minimum.  

Here’s how to approach it:  

Choose calm, intentional communication 

Don’t start the conversation in a heated moment – choose a calm and convenient time. Use ‘I’ statements to express your needs, rather than ones starting with ‘you’, which can feel accusatory and can make your partner feel defensive. Speak in a respectful tone with clarity and compassion. You should also ask them what their bare minimums are so you can make them feel seen, heard and respected, too.  

Be specific about behaviours, not character 

 The last thing you want to do is make any personal judgments about your partner. Instead, focus on behaviours. Don’t say: ‘You don’t respect me.’ Rather, explain what respect looks like to you so that you can both get on the same page. By being specific, you can help your partner understand the things you will and won’t accept – creating a shared language for accountability so it’s easier to express when standards are being met or not.  

Stand firm, but be open to dialogue 

For both of you to communicate your individual needs, there has to be an openness to be honest with your partner but also to hear any feedback they might have. They might have questions or want to respond, and you need to be receptive to that. Also, listening to them doesn’t mean you have to compromise your values. It should be a healthy two-way exchange and not an ultimatum. 

@jimmyonrelationships Default to Listening #datingtips #relationshipadvice #marriagegoals #communication ♬ original sound – Jimmy Knowles

 The new non-negotiables  

Everybody has things that they won’t tolerate in their relationships. What are yours?  

• Disrespect  

• Humiliation 

• Control 

• Dishonesty 

• Infidelity 

• Unaccountability 

• Unhelpfulness 

•  Inequality  

Words: Helen Wallace 
Photography: Pexels 

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