No longer in love with your job? Here’s what may lie behind it.
So… It’s the start of a new week and the team is getting ready for a brainstorming session. They’re fully prepared, with high energy and ideas jotted down. But Tammy, who usually always volunteers to share first, has gone quiet in the last few sessions. She is not attending ‘optional’ meetings and is saying no to projects she used to enjoy. She hasn’t resigned, hasn’t said anything specifically, but mentally she seems, well, uninterested.
This slow fade has a name: micro-quitting (also known as ‘quiet cracking’). Different to quiet quitting, which is about doing only what must be done to hang on to a job, micro-quitting (which can be a precursor to quiet quitting) is more difficult to spot.
“Micro-quitting is the gradual, often unnoticed behaviour that shows an employee is emotionally checked out,” says Zulfa George, a talent acquisition specialist with more than a decade’s worth of experience in HR. “It happens in small steps. Employees lose interest, stop collaborating or mentally withdraw while still being physically present.” There’s no dramatic exit or big argument. Instead, it shows up in small ways. “Early signs include putting in less effort, attending meetings less, responding more slowly to messages, losing their sense of curiosity and shifting from proactive to reactive behaviour,” says Zulfa.
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Alone, these little changes are easy to excuse. Maybe Tammy is tired or the week has been busy… However, when these behaviours persist, it creates a wider problem. The whole team’s energy drops. Ideas dry up. And office morale quietly suffers.
Why do employees start pulling back?
In some cases, it’s about self-protection. “Disengagement often starts when people feel stuck, overlooked or exhausted,” Zulfa explains. “Many don’t quit right away because of money, loyalty or hope that things will get better. So they pull back in order to cope.”
Employees who feel overlooked and unheard or, on the opposite end of the spectrum, micro-managed, are more prone to micro-quitting. Recognition plays a big role as well.
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“When people don’t feel appreciated or see ways to grow, their motivation disappears quickly,” says Zulfa. “They start to disengage before they decide to leave for good.”
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Signs you may be micro-quitting
1. You used to contribute ideas in meetings, but now you’re silent, bored or distracted.
2. Emails and team messages are kept short; without the friendly tone they once had.
3. Consistently logging off exactly on time, avoiding voluntary overtime.
4. Passing up opportunities to take on new projects.
5. Work that was once thorough is now just ‘good enough’.
6. You opt out of casual office chats, team lunches or after-work drinks.
7. You’re calling in sick more frequently, especially around high-stress deadlines.
How managers can spot and respond
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– Look at behaviour: Who is quieter? Who has stopped sharing ideas? Who is there but doesn’t really seem engaged?
– Think about systems: “Rigid rules, unclear expectations and treating everyone the same can show employees that their needs don’t matter,” warns HR specialist Zulfa George.
– Genuinely care about your employees: Ask them how they are really doing? What’s draining their energy? What would help them feel engaged again?
Advice for employees
If reading Tammy’s story resonates with you, pause and reflect. Think about what’s causing it. Is it your workload, management or leadership, lack of growth opportunities or burnout? “Dealing with it early can prevent long term dissatisfaction,” says Zulfa.
When speaking to your manager, it is important to focus on solutions. Say things like, “I want to do my best work, and this is what I need to stay engaged…”
Other methods include asking for clarity, setting boundaries, seeking development opportunities and reconnecting with your ‘why’ – your purpose and your passion. And if re-engaging isn’t possible, “protecting your energy while planning your next steps is equally valid,” Zulfa adds.
Words: Shanaaz Petersen
Photography: Shutterstock
Also read: How to spot a toxic work environment
