Bayanda Gumede is an award-winning mom blogger who inspires moms to live a life they love! Get to know her more as well as learn some great parenting tips in this interview.

Hi, Bayanda! Please tell us about yourself, and what made you start your blog and the journey that came with it?

I’m a mom, wife and entrepreneur who has always loved writing and photography, so blogging just made sense. When I initially started, I just wanted to share my experiences as a young mom living in South Africa. However, over time my content started to gravitate more towards parenting. And so, I’ve allowed my desire to become a better parent to take the lead in my content creator journey.

What are your best mommy hacks that you’d like to share?

The best hacks I can give you are from my blog, such as: Use a calendar to sync up all family appointments, whether it’s doctor’s appointments, school activities or family functions. We’re all so busy as individuals that this helps to keep each other in a loop. I’d also suggest that you create to-do lists to motivate yourself to get things done. Split responsibilities with your partner because ‘supermom syndrome’ is a thing, and it can lead to burnout and feeling overwhelmed even if you are getting things done. Always wake up and get ready before your kids. It’s a lifesaver, especially on school days. You want to be able to focus all your attention on your child before they leave for school. And lastly, prep your meals. I plan our dinners and the kids’ lunch on Sundays by drafting a menu and a grocery list. That way, I spend less time at the grocery store, and I make fewer trips.

What are your favourite budget-friendly ways to keep the kids entertained over the festive season?

You can’t go wrong with the beach. It’s free, and the kids are usually exhausted by the time we get home. Everybody wins! We also love playing board games. It’s an excellent way to stay connected as a family.

What advice do you want to put out there for mothers?

Don’t take things too personally. As mothers, we often feel personally offended by our children’s misbehaviour. You need to set clear boundaries. Give your child the freedom to express themselves, but it must always be done with respect. With regards to teenagers, let go of your control. Letting teens make their own decisions will serve them best in the long run – within certain limits, of course. Decision-making is an essential skill teens must develop before they leave the nest. If you’re too controlling, you may breed rebellion. Healthy, self-disciplined, motivated teenagers have a strong sense of control over their lives. Other than that, make sure you know how to discipline and teach your child right from wrong in a productive way, and always take some time to spend quality time with them no matter how busy you are. 

Quick-fire questions

Top mommy tip?

A well-rested mom is a blessing to her family. Rest, Mama!

Favourite self-care treat? 

A quick yoga session before bedtime.

Your motto in life? 

I am the co-creator of my destiny. 

What can’t you leave the house without? 

Nude lipstick. Yes, I wear lipstick under a mask.

Words by Thuveshnie Govender 
Photography: Courtesy images