Bring together your new partner and your child, seamlessly.

Dating can be challenging when you are a single parent. While you always have your child’s best interests at heart, you also yearn for companionship from a significant other. Once you’ve found this connection with someone, you’d naturally want to find the right way to introduce this person to your children. Based on advice from clinical social worker Terry Gaspard, here are tips to keep in mind to help this important process go off without a hitch. 

COMMUNICATION IS KEY

Talk to your kids about the need to socialise in a way that makes sense to them based on their age. Have a chat with your partner as well about the other parent, your family values and what the family dynamic has been like for your child. 

EXPECT RESISTANCE

If your child is under 10 years old, they’re more likely to feel threatened by this new person in your life. Assure them that your new partner will not be replacing your child’s other parent. It’s important your child knows that your relationship with them will not change. 

KEEP THE FIRST MEETING SHORT AND SWEET

Organise an activity that will make your child feel as comfortable as possible when introducing your partner for the first time. Take a trip to the park or maybe go bowling – as long as it’s not at home. 

FOLLOW UP ON THE FIRST MEETING

Being aware of both your child and your significant other’s feelings is essential because the goal of the next meeting is for them to interact. Knowing how both sides feel will help you iron out any potential issues. 

SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CHILD

Your child needs to know that they are still number one in your life. When you feel that it’s time to have your partner over for dinner, let your child help with the prep. It also helps them be more understanding when you and your partner are out alone on dates. 

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